How to Fight, Right!

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Squaring off against your partner or friend is never fun, but how you handle the situation can actually speak volumes about your relationship. I have a temper.  There, I said it.  After a large number of what some may categorize as “explosive” fights, I have learned how valuable communication is.  It is hard. So here are some tips I’ve learned that to help me put on my hard hat and get to work.

  1. Take the time you need to calm down in order to have a civilized conversation. Breathing room is ok – just make sure you are both agree to that.
  2. If possible, have a conversation in person – texts and even phone calls can’t take the place of physical connection.
  3. Keep a close eye on your WBT (Words, body language and tone) – HOW you say something is just as important as WHAT you say.
  4. Leave accusations at the door – the blame game doesn’t help anyone. This just puts you both on the defensive.
  5. Remember the other person has feelings on the subject too – I struggle with this a lot. When I get upset I tend to forget that other people may be equally as upset for a different reason, but it is very important to recognize.
  6. LISTEN! When you are sitting there thinking about what you are going to say next, you may miss something important that the other person is saying!
  7. Avoid words like “Always” and “Never” – when you talk in absolutes it doesn’t leave any room for change.
  8. Be aware of mine fields – Both parties may have hot buttons so tread mindfully. You don’t want to set something off that is completely off topic.
  9. Operate with full disclosure – Your partner does not know what is in your head. You have to tell them. If something hurts your feelings, speak up! Plus if you aren’t fully open about how you feel, it WILL come up again in a later fight.
  10. Keep the fight in perspective – Is this something to end a friendship or relationship over?

Save or Splurge?

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Social media has taught us that if a picture isn’t taken, it didn’t happen – so a lady has to be camera at almost any given point (or have a go to photo filter).   Every girl has to have her bag of tricks to keep her looking fabulous. However, we can’t all afford the top of the line of EVERYTHING.  So where do we draw the line?  These are some of the things that are worth the dough and maybe you can do without:     Continue reading “Save or Splurge?”

Cultural Crash Course

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This past week I spent cruising the California Coast with my parents.  My dad had training in San Diego and they were departing for a cruise from San Francisco, so I became their PCH chauffeur. This excursion lead us to many places I would not have thought of to go myself, including the USS Midway, Ronald Reagan Library & Museum, and Hearst Castle.

This trip made me realize how much California has to offer that I have not taken advantage of.  I have lived in Los Angeles for almost eight years and have been to exactly one museum of note. I have said many times how important travel is to experience art, culture and other ways of life, but I am not even immersing myself in my own.  LA has more museums than any city in America and I have only been to ONE!

I am on a mission to change that.  After pouring through “must see” lists, I made my own first small list to accomplish.  For you deal seekers like me, I also found when they are free:

  • LACMA – general admission is free to LA County residents with proof of residency after 3 pm on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday
  • Abbot Kinney First Fridays – Free
  • Natural History Museum – Free on the first Tuesday of the month, except in July and August
  • La Brea Tarpits – Free general admission on the first Tuesday of every month, except in July and August.
  • Huntington Library and Gardens – Free the first Thursday of every month, but tickets are required in advance

Let’s get cultural!

Xoxo-

Suzanne